I love to see how our kids love their kids

Although our grandkids live far away, their parents generously include us in their lives through emails, pictures, videos, video chats, cards, finger paintings, and more. We get to peek into their activities and watch them grow. We get to celebrate achievements. I love to see the ways our kids love their kids.

I wondered out loud recently to my wife, if our kids, while enjoying a developmental milestone with their kids, ever realize that what they are feeling is the exact feeling we enjoyed again and again as we watched them grow from babies to children. “Will they realize through their kids, how much we loved and enjoyed them as our kids?” She answered, “No, why would they? Did you think about your parents when we were new parents?”

I grew up in a family that never said, never heard, never felt, “I love you.” I guess I shouldn’t say never. That day in 1962 when mom surrendered the five of us and transferred our custody to the Juvenile Detention Hall in Vancouver, Washington, she was crying when she said, “I love you,” and walked out the door. I’d heard of love, this is it? That was the beginning of another chapter in this life adventure. In a week, we were in a foster home, and in a couple more weeks we were in another where three of us served about a year. I would later brag that before graduating from high school, I lived in 27 houses including JDH and those two foster homes. That might be material for another posting.

I answered my wife, “Yes,” as a new parent in self training, “I actually thought about my parents once or twice.” I so loved our babies, I held, hugged and kissed, and told them so every day. It felt very natural to me, and caring for them became my highest priority. I would do anything to protect them. When I thought about my parents, I wondered why they didn’t feel the same.

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No Shots – No Change

After a few missed shots, I thought I felt a kind of thawing out sensation in the neuropathy in my feet, but no symptoms or side effects have really changed.

I’m still sorting and organizing files in my picture archives.  Lately my push is assigning dates to my pre-digital camera pictures.  Those picture files report the date they were scanned as being the date they were taken, which is far from accurate.  I can fairly guesstimate dates for pictures with my kids in them, but without them, it’s tough.

Many years ago, Diane and I stepped out in faith and started a small business.  If you are or have ever been self employed, you know what I mean about stepping out in faith.  In the startup supplies we purchased for our in-home office was our first, large, 23×18” wall calendar.  It was great for scheduling and recording my jobs and other work related items.  I also began adding personal notes like birthday reminders and event dates.  Before long, the wall calendar became a sort of “Express Lane diary for five items or less.”  My favorite entries are from after our kids came along.  There are a lot of “first did” and “first said” notations.  On December 17, 1980, my 2 ½ year old son said he will shoot and kill the neighbors.  Where did he get that?  In November, three years later, the same son asked if your spirit was like a bubble with God in it.  Where did he get that?  Kids are funny.  Overall the calendars tell a story of busy people quite involved with family and friends.

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I have hundreds of pictures that need accurate dates.  I have about 372 monthly calendar pages from 1976 to 2007 that remember most of the events represented by pictures needing dates.  All I have to do is match them up!  The Blessings continue.